Reality Reconstruction

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In this article you’ll learn a powerful communication strategy that will make others believe that you have powerful skills of insight and intuition, and some may even think that you can read their minds.

This particular language “pattern” is called, aptly enough, “Mind Reading.” It’s not a “pattern” like some of the other ones, as it doesn’t have a specific structure from a linguistic standpoint, but it does lead itself to clearly being an “engineered” skill or technique that will give you quick and powerful rapport with your audience.

It’s fairly simple, and seems quite obvious from the inside out, but people have been using this pattern for hundreds, if not thousands, of years, to trick people and claim some supernatural powers to gain influence and bilk people out of their hard earned finances.

So it goes without saying not to go too far with this pattern, and only to use it when you truly are after a “win – win” scenario.

It works like this:

Think of some things that must be true about the person you are speaking with, either about the situation, or about life in general.

For example, most people in life have goals. They may be small, they may be large, but most people have them. And among people’s goals, some seem easier than others to reach. Some may be short term, like going to McDonalds for lunch; some may be long term, like finishing a Masters Degree. By simply being human, most people will have a set of goals, with some being easier to reach than others.

When you plug that basic information into this pattern, it may sound like this:

You seem like somebody that has some goals in life. Somebody that has a fairly clear idea of where they want to go. And you also seem like somebody that has more than one goal. You probably have many goals. And while some of those goals may seem easy to reach, some may seem a bit difficult, and you may be wondering, as you think about those goals now, if there isn’t an easier way to achieve them. A way that would almost guarantee your success.

Now if you were somebody that sold self improvement products, you would be sounding like you really knew what you were talking about, and your particular “target,” would be much likelier to express some kind of interest in your product. (I suppose you see now how this pattern an easily be abused.)

Another example. Let’s say you are talking to your friend, and he or she is thinking about making a big, perhaps life changing decision. What do we know about decisions? Everybody has made them. Everybody has made hard decisions, and easy decisions. Everybody has made decisions that they later regretted, and everybody has made decisions that they were proud of making, as they worked out quite well. And everybody can remember feeling anxious before making a big decision.

Assuming that you think making this decision in question would have a positive effect on your friend’s life, you may say something like this:

Now, I know you pretty well. I know you’ve made some pretty big decisions in your life. And you’re the kind of person who can tell the difference between a decision that didn’t work out so well, and the one’s that did. I can also tell you that you can remember feeling anxious before most major decisions, right? Which is exactly how you are feeling now. Anxious. But when you recall all those times that you felt nervous before, and made the decisions anyway that turned out to be pretty good, it kind of makes that anxious feeling go away, doesn’t it? Because I know you can remember those anxious feelings you felt before you made those really good decisions, I think you’ll agree that this decision that you are thinking about now will likely have a pretty good outcome.

Or how about you are a guy, and you see a cute girl you’d like to get to know better, and you want to ask for her number. What do most girls think when some stranger asks for their number, and what are most girls experiences with dating guys?

Feelings of nervousness, memories of dates that worked out, and dates that didn’t work out. Dates where she liked him, but he didn’t like her, and dates where he liked her, but she didn’t like him. And dates where they liked each other fairly well. Pretty common across all people that have been on a few dates in their life.

So you might say something like:

Look, I know you don’t know me, and you’re probably thinking that I may be some psycho that won’t leave you alone. I’m sure you’ve had your share of dates that didn’t work out so well. Maybe some guy liked you a lot, but you didn’t really feel the same, or maybe it was the other way around. But I bet you did have some good experiences in the past. And I’ll bet you were just as nervous meeting them for the first time as you probably are now. I’m nervous too. But don’t we owe it to ourselves to see if this could turn out to be one of those good experiences? In fact, I’ll bet you had some pretty good dates where before you weren’t so sure. Some you were even thinking of not going on, but you were glad that you did.

A great way to practice this is just to go out people watching, and imagine things that have a high probability of being true regarding the people you are watching, based on the situation, their age, and gender, kind of clothes they are wearing, their brands, etc, if they are reading something, or talking to somebody, or appear cold or hot, or whatever else you can observe. And when you get good at coming up with three or four things relatively quickly, you can move on to trying this with your friends, both old friends and friends you haven’t met yet.

Have fun.

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