Sleight Of Mouth – Putting It All Together
So How Do You Really Do This?
Sleight of Mouth language patterns from NLP are among most persuasive linguistic skills you can master. Presented in previous articles has been 22 of the most powerful patterns.
While it’s one thing to understand them and be able to come up with examples on an intellectual level, it’s important to understand that using them effectively in everyday conversations, whether in sales, seduction or to enhance existing relationships, they are far from academic.
The most important thing to keep in mind is that in order to maximize their effectiveness, it is imperative that you never set off the “he’s trying to change my mind” warning in the other person’s mind. Once this happens, the person will be on the defensive, and every pattern and trick you throw at them will only entrench them further in their position.
A good structure, or recipe, to keep in mind when embarking on any covert persuasion is as follows:
- Through careful elicitation, make sure you understand their objection.
- Agree with their objection or belief, and show them you truly respect their opinion. At the very least you must internally respect how they came to that conclusion, and how you yourself would come to the same conclusion in the same circumstances.
- Think of at least three or four different patterns that you could apply to their belief. It doesn’t matter what order, or which patterns.
- Then simply allow the conversation to flow wherever it goes, and bring up different alternatives as if you just thought of them on the fly. Or as if you remembered a friend or an old roommate who had a different take on things. The trick is for them to stumble on a different way of looking at their problem, limitation or objection themselves.
Fractionation can be a great way to introduce different ideas into the conversation. Fractionation refers to somebody who goes into a hypnotic trance over and over. For example, somebody who visits a therapist for the first time might have a hard time going into trance. With each subsequent visit, however, they will go deeper and deeper, quicker and quicker.
You can use this conversationally with the same effect. Talk about the objection or problem, then talk about the weather. Then talk about your friend through which you can introduce one of these Sleight of Mouth patterns. Then talk about the price of corn or something. Then introduce another pattern. Then talk about some sports team. Back and forth. Each time you return to the objection, with a different angle, they will be more and more ready to accept a different outlook on things.
So how do you practice using these patterns? There are plenty of ways. With friends, in online forums, or just simply get out there and fall on your face a few times.
One great way to help you do this is to keep a Sleight of Mouth Journal. Each day before bed, review the conversations of the day. Find an objection or limiting belief, where you could have used one of these patterns.
Then take a few minutes to imagine what it would have been like if you used the pattern successfully. Imagine yourself delivering the pattern. Imagine the other person feeling really good as they accepted your different model of the world. Imagine getting the sale, or the number, or a friend or partner with a new outlook on life.
After a few weeks of doing this, these patterns will become second nature. And the world will never look the same again.
